tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post221500459248511546..comments2023-04-04T09:10:44.970-04:00Comments on Mal-fits: The images we projectUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post-29295582445720801962009-08-24T09:22:48.573-04:002009-08-24T09:22:48.573-04:00The problem, AM, of course, is that the people wit...The problem, AM, of course, is that the people with the false faces (or the false words) are <i>good</i>. They are beautiful and eloquent, and tell you exactly what you want to hear. Until, of course, they DON'T.Williamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15428082495674007773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post-58162733816313258892009-08-24T04:12:03.205-04:002009-08-24T04:12:03.205-04:00Not only do we have an image of how we see ourselv...Not only do we have an image of how we see ourselves, and how we want to be seen by others, but we have communication issues with other people.<br /><br />One of the profound moments of realization is that putting on a face for other people is a waste of time. Being self actualized is a great thing. Staying self actualized is hard, actively choosing not to care about what other people think takes effort.<br /><br />But in the end it is worth it. The people who surround themselves with other self actualized people are the kind of people that you want on your side when the chips are down.SordidPandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00657526230826604643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post-81560072024039604702009-08-23T17:40:34.731-04:002009-08-23T17:40:34.731-04:00I remember a looooong time ago in college. I was t...I remember a looooong time ago in college. I was taking a Psychology class and the prof, an older gentlemen who professed to be somewhat of a Jungian, said that people have two faces, the public face and the personal face. In most cases the faces are nearly the same. In some, however, they are not and that leads to issues. In his context, it was mental issues.<br /><br />I've never forgotten that and have found in my 60+ years to have been true.Crucishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15441911110953212619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post-92203784129684690772009-08-23T12:45:35.474-04:002009-08-23T12:45:35.474-04:00I echo Jean's comments above. First we need t...I echo Jean's comments above. First we need to be honest with ourselves and understand what part of us is real, and what part of us is just the image we are trying to project. If you can't be honest with yourself (I think this is difficult for us), there is no way to share that honesty with another. So, perhaps it's not an intentional betrayal...just a part of growing up. Have you heard Billy Joels, "The Stranger"?JKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post-76548262305454854392009-08-21T23:42:26.096-04:002009-08-21T23:42:26.096-04:00Makes it even harder to know another person if we ...Makes it even harder to know another person if we are busy hiding parts of us from ourselves.<br />I find that if I might begin to look at myself honestly there are things I do not like so I'm hiding as much or more from myself than from others.<br />My wall is surprisingly high and thick.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02099808690177823190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3885619915509992304.post-42191482468838259002009-08-21T22:01:37.853-04:002009-08-21T22:01:37.853-04:00It is really hurtful to realize that one has been ...It is really hurtful to realize that one has been taken advantage of, for the sake of drama, ego stroking, validation, whatever. That makes it all the more bitter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com